“You can’t always control the wind, but you can control your sails.”While executive functioning (EF) has gained increasing attention in the mainstream over the last few years, it’s still not as commonly known as critical thinking, communication, or time management – but it IS as commonly misunderstood by those who have heard of it.
We’re not a good skill-builder until we’re clear – conceptually and practically – on what the skill we’re trying to build actually is. There are tons of definitions of EF available following the explosion of research on the subject, but we want to ground our thinking in the basics and really wrap our heads around what it means.
To this end, let’s look at EF’s main elements and the language we use to talk about them.
While challenges with EF are often associated with learning differences such as ADD/ADHD, any student (or adult, for that matter) – formally diagnosed or not – can have EF deficits.
In my experience, most people are NOT using their EF as well as they could, simply because they never learned that they could.
I can’t overstate the importance of letting this sink in: if we practice, we will get better. When we help our kids practice, they get better. If we do NOT practice, we will not get better. If our kids do NOT explicitly and systematically build their EF skills, they will not have strong EF skills.
It’s like physical training; we don’t build muscle or endurance without exercising/training regularly and consistently. And you guys – schools don’t teach this. As with all of our core skills, one of the reasons that actively building these skills sets kids up for success and puts them ahead of their peers is because most kids are NOT taught this.
The fact that explicit skill-building isn’t embedded in most curricula is a frequent source of frustration for me, but all we can do until there’s a real change in the school system is take ownership over it + and help them take ownership over it.
So why should we be motivated to do this? One study sums it up:
“EFs are predictive of achievement, health, wealth, and quality of life throughout life, often more so than IQ or socioeconomic status.”
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